Talking with Your Student
Talking with your son or daughter is very important - especially if you have reason to believe they may be using and/or abusing alcohol or other drugs. Some key things to consider as you initiate these challenging conversations:
- Work to establish an open & trusting relationship. This ideally begins before your student comes to campus, however, it is never too late to start or start over.
- Be a good role model. Don't be surprised if your student mirrors your behavior. One of the biggest predictors of adolescent drug abuse is parental substance abuse patterns.
- Be factual and straightforward. If you have a concern, be direct about the concern that has developed.
- Stay away from using "scare tactics". While reasonable consequences are helpful - empty threats and yelling are not.
Set clear expectations about such things as:
- Attending class
- Drinking and driving
- Financial responsibility
- Study time vs. social time
- How you will stay in touch
- Ask questions:
- Tell me about how things are going?
- How does the party scene compare to high school?
- What is residence life like? What do you like and dislike?
- How are you handling the stress of college? What are you doing to cope?
- What can we do to help?
If you have questions about your student's behavior that you would like to discuss with a professional, please give us a call at 310-506-4210 or e-mail the Alcohol Education Coordinator, Sparkle Greenhaw, at email@example.com .